• Misty Gage

Leaving Comfort Behind

Everybody gets comfy. We all get into our patterns, grooves and routines. Sometimes it's hard to get out of them and sometimes we just don't know how damaging they really are.

Sometimes "comfort" keeps us imprisoned in situations we would be better off not being in. That's what the last few years of my marriage were like for me. I loved my husband very much and part of me loves him still and that's why I stayed as long as I did. I kept trying to make it work, holding onto hope that things would get better and we'd work it out.

Even though I was miserable, lonely and hurt I was still comfortable. I knew what to expect, I knew my place and what I was doing there. It wasn't a great place to be but it was mine and I knew where I fit in.

After my divorce I made a vow to never let myself get comfy again. I still have my grooves and routines I fall into, we all do, but now I push myself to seek things that stretch my boundaries, challenge me and force me out of my comfort zone.

Sometimes it's trying a new art technique, speaking my mind when I'd usually hold my tongue, putting myself out there when I'm absolutely terrified or just meeting up with a brand new group of crafty women for coffee.

The world is full of opportunities and they don't have to be bad or scary. We have to open ourselves to the possibilities of life. When we say "yes" and stop letting "comfy" take over we expand our horizon's; we grow and we blossom in ways we can't even begin to imagine. The risks of stepping away from our safe zones are well worth the trepidation we may feel along the way.

Be smart and be careful in your explorations but don't let "comfy" get the last word.

'Til next time,


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